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anyone you know who
has gone through
something similar?"
What we do with
touch, we can do with
words—and vice versa.
TRANSFORMATION
Now, you have to
wonder what might
have happened to the
Wicked Queen if the
mirror, upon being
asked who was the fairest in the land, didn't say,
"I'm sorry. It's Snow White. You are so yesterday."
What if instead, the mirror had said, "Your
beauty is eternal. Stop staring in the mirror and get
out there."
All darkness can be transformed into light.
Notes
1. in5d, Rollin McCraty, Raymond Trevor Bradley, and Dana Tomasino,
"The Heart Has Its Own 'Brain' and Consciousness," accessed
May 2015, www.in5d.com/the-heart-has-its-own-brain-and-
consciousness.
2. National Institute of Health News In Health, "The Power of Love,"
accessed May 2015, http://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2007/February/
docs/01features_01.htm.
3. Heart Power, Linda Marks, "The Power of the Heart," accessed
May 2015, www.healingheartpower.com/power-heart.html.
4. Ibid.
5. Time.com, Mandy Oaklander, "The Reason You Make Unhealthy
Choices," accessed February 2015, www.time.com/3430670/self-
compassion-health/?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000618.
6. Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind
to Yourself (New York: William Morrow, 2011); Self-Compassion
website, Kristen Neff, "Test How Self-Compassionate You Are,"
accessed May 2015, www.self-compassion.org/test-your-self-
compassion-level.html.
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going through";
"My whole life is
going down the
drain." These ideas
are comparable
to looking in
the mirror and
seeing the worst
in ourselves.
According
to an analysis of
15 studies that
reviewed more
than 3,000 people
across the age spectrum, self-criticism results in
self-destruction and worsened health. By contrast,
self-kindness results in fewer damaging feelings
and healthier behaviors. The review found that self-
compassion led individuals to eat better, exercise
more, get restful sleep, and stress less.
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Bottom line:
when we give ourselves compassion—a form of love—
we're better able to do what we know we should do.
As healers, we have the capacity to lead our
clients toward self-love through language.
I have analyzed the self-compassion quiz
developed by Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self
Compassion, in order to pinpoint the main areas of
self-talk.
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In general, people choose one of these
responses when focusing on their problems:
1. Adequate versus inadequate: I can handle a stressor
rather than not; I am strong enough versus too weak.
2. Positive versus negative: good things can happen,
not only bad.
3. Connected versus separate: my suffering connects
me with, rather than separates me from, humanity.
4. Compartmentalized versus generalized: my problem
occupies a part rather than the entirety of my life.
By focusing our clients on their adequacy,
positivity, and connectivity, as well as the bounds
of a challenge, we energetically mirror love, and
encourage them to embrace its restorative properties.
How do we do this? We dive under the presenting
negativity, sense the subtle presence of love, and
reflect the latter back to them. For instance, when
a client says, "I don't have what it takes to deal with
this stress," we can say, "I see how much stress you
are under. How have you handled situations like this
in the past?" If she says, "No one understands me,"
we might state, "I hear how alone you feel. Is there
