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Healer's Strategies Pay attention to the difference between what someone says and what you intuitively sense they mean. Trust your intuition. If you think you are getting played, stick to protocol and policies and, if necessary, have someone else talk to or email the client when communicating. Practice the "art of the pause." If pressed, simply say, "I have to think about that." When being pushed, be comfortable with being accused of being unkind when you are firm and always follow your own spiritual guidance, not that of your client's. Example Years ago, I worked with a wealthy client. After a few sessions, he insisted that God said I was supposed to marry him and move to his hometown. I said I would believe it if God said the same to me, but in the meantime, I couldn't work professionally with him any longer. SIXTH CHAKRA: VIOLET Manages: Vision, clairvoyance, selection of the future Location: Brow Manipulator's Strategies Sixth chakra manipulators often insist their vision of the future is totally accurate. As an intuitive, they might disagree with you if you perceive something as less than awesome, especially if you point out negative consequences to their harmful behaviors. They might also attempt to draw you into futuristic schemes, such as "sure thing" investments. Healer's Strategies Stay in the present. Don't be tempted to believe a client's false or fantastical version of the future and don't insert yourself in their future. Bravely disagree with a client's idea if need be. Deal with inner issues that make you think another's future depends on you and you alone. Example Decades ago, I had a client promise that if I would work on him for free, he'd give me a percentage of a business deal. After all, I was vital to making the dream come true. I did this for three months before figuring out the deal wasn't ever going to happen. I hadn't even drawn up a contract! I stopped seeing him until he paid me back financially and was lucky that he did. SEVENTH CHAKRA: WHITE Manages: Spirituality, purpose, connection to the Spirit Location: Top of the head Manipulator's Strategies Seventh chakra manipulators frequently come off as very spiritual. You'll feel guilty disagreeing with their assessment of reality, especially as they are such perfect people. They might convince you that their higher purpose or spiritual development depends on you, or they might quote psychic sources telling you what to do. They might also shame you for charging them money, using some version of the idea that "money is evil." And they won't care if you go against your own value system as long as they get what they want. Healer's Strategies Live your value system. Know that you are charging for your time, not your spiritual energy. If asked, state your religious or spiritual affiliation but explain that you work with people of all creeds and spiritual backgrounds. Example I received an email from a man who stated he was so spiritually developed that I should give him a free session. After all, I would probably gain more than him. Needless to say, I refused the honor. If all else fails, trust those spidey senses! You know who you are and who you don't want to be. Notes 1. Preston Ni, "14 Signs of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation," Psychology Today, October 11, 2015, accessed May 2018, www.psychologytoday.com/ blog/communication-success/201510/14-signs- psychological-and-emotional-manipulation. 2. Suzanne Degges-White, "How to Handle Manipulators," Psychology Today, March 25, 2014, accessed May 2018, www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime- connections/201403/how-handle-manipulators. 3. WebMD, "Recognizing Caregiver Burnout," accessed May 2018, www.webmd.com/ women/caregiver-recognizing-burnout. Cyndi Dale is an internationally renowned author, speaker, and intuitive consultant. Her popular books include The Subtle Body Coloring Book: Learn Energetic Anatomy (Sounds True, 2017), Subtle Energy Techniques (Llewellyn Publications, 2017), Llewellyn's Complete Book of Chakras (Llewellyn Publications, 2016), The Intuition Guidebook: How To Safely and Wisely Use Your Sixth Sense (Deeper Well Publishing, 2011), Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life (Sounds True, 2011), The Subtle Body: An Encyclopedia of Your Energetic Anatomy (Sounds True, 2009), and The Complete Book of Chakra Healing (Llewellyn Publications, 2009), as well as nearly 20 additional books. To learn more about Dale and her products, services, and classes, please visit www.cyndidale.com. ENERGY WORK Yo u r M & B i s w o r t h 2 C E s ! G o t o w w w. a b m p . c o m / c e t o l e a r n m o r e . 97